“He’s Just Not That Into You” … because you’re stupid.

I haven’t seen the movie. Nor have I read the book. But I know enough people who have to get the gist of it. It’s been several years since I was single, so maybe I just can’t relate to it, but it seems like the real reason guys aren’t into the girls is because the gals just don’t get it. Sorry, sisters, but I have to call it like I see it. So that’s the cause, though the symptoms vary:

1. Stupidity. They don’t learn from their mistakes, and keep going back to the same guy, or some archetype thereof.
2. Insecurity. They don’t learn think they deserve any better. “Daddy” issues, body issues, etc., are also related.
3. Delusion. They think the good guys are all taken, boring, or gay. They’re not.

These are just a few of the reasons he may not be into you. Better yet, to quote another line….after awhile, you gotta consider that “it may be you, not him.”

Scary Words

I ran across this article today(http://www.newsweek.com/id/183658). Now, I won't begin to debate the rights or wrongs of abortion; there's usually no swaying people on these things. I am firmly against it. Don't agree with me? Fine. To me, if there's a heartbeat, there's a life. And that life is not to be terminated. But I think that even people who are pro-choice can agree that abortion is not a good thing, or one that should be taken lightly.

This is why the words that popped up frequently in the article scared me: control, simple, and privacy. Those three words are indicative of how many people pawn off difficult decisions or mistakes.

Control--"I can do what I want. It's my choice."
Simple--"If it's easy and legal, it can't be too wrong."
Privacy--"Since it's so simple and in my control, I shouldn't have to be accountable to anyone else."

The author goes on to cite that people passing judgement on others' situations is part of the problem. To me, this "live and let live" attitude is getting more and more tired. What happened to accountability? It seems people have no issues in stating liberal opinions (of which, yes, I do have some), but the second someone tries to get traditional ... whoa, Nelly. No one wants to say there are some things that are right and some things that are wrong. Agree or not, but don't be afraid to pass judgement on an act you feel is wrong. And yes, there's a difference between judging the act, and judging the person.

And good God---abortion may mean many things to people, but I would hope the word "simple" would not be a part of the vocabulary.